The questions as set out below are to be used as guideline to check if you suffer from co dependency. They are not meant to be used as a method of diagnosis, nor does a negative answer to these questions give you the guarantee that addiction is not present in you.
We are aware of the fact that diagnoses of co dependency is a very serious and personal matter. We hope these questions can help you with this. Try to look at yourself and how you feel inside honestly whilst taking these tests.
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1. Do you find it hard to identify your feelings?
2. Do you deny or trivialise how you really feel?
3. Do you perceive yourself as non egocentric and totally devoted to the care of others?
4. Do you find it hard to make decisions?
5. Do you often judge what you think, do and feel as not good enough?
6. Do you become uncomfortable when acknowledged, praised or receiving gifts?
7. Do you have difficulty with expressing your needs and wishes to others?
8. Do you choose others opinions over your own?
9. Do you not see yourself as a person who is worthwhile?
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Do you adapt to other peoples opinions because you are afraid of rejection?
11. Are you sensitive to other peoples feelings and do you feel them?
12. Are you extremely loyal towards others?
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Do you find other peoples opinions more important than your own and do you have difficulty in expressing your opinion if it differs from others?
14. Do you set aside your own interests and hobbies for those of another?
15. Do you accept sex when you seek love?
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Do you feel many people cannot take care of themselves and you need to help them?
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Do you try to convince others about what to think and how to feel?
18. Do you get angry when someone does not allow you to help them?
19. Do you hand out advice that is not asked for?
20. Do you give a lot of favours and presents to people you care for?
21. Do you use sex to feel approval and appreciation?
22. Do you feel the need to be needed in a relationship?
If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions, this could be an indication that you have a problem with codependency. By working on your codependency with a counsellor or within a self help group, your codependency symptoms will decrease and your quality of life will increase. The first step towards recovery is to recognise the problem and to inventory the addict behaviour.
